Why men could do with seeing a counsellor

Why bother with counselling, especially a counselling approach designed with men in mind? The answer is quite simple: you will be more balanced, and better relationships come with more balance. I will not say you will be happier; who knows what...

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Why bother with a counselling approach designed with men in mind?

The answer is quite simple: you will be more balanced, and better relationships come with more balance. I will not say you will be happier; who knows what that means anyway! Nor will I say that you will not have...

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Groups should help you be a better person

One of the issues I often encounter in the counselling room is the distinction between us and them. The creation of what is, inherently, a false distinction between other people and me, or the group I am in and...

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A risky, but necessary, post

Sometimes we need to take a risk. This blog post is, I feel, a risk. I am getting to an age where I begin to reflect seriously on my life. Not in a morbid, “oh, I’ve got to get my...

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Ending counselling sessions

Ending counselling sessions with many clients can be a bit strange. When working with organisations, it is often the case that we have come to the end of the allotted sessions, and we have no choice but to finish the...

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Small things matter.

The photo above is of our puppy, Margot, who is a small Border Terrier who has exploded with the force of a whirlwind into our lives recently; living proof that small things matter! I was walking Margot back from town...

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Anxiety – The Jealous Lover

In recent weeks, it has been interesting to see how much of a jealous lover anxiety can be. Let me explain. In the early days of any relationship, we tend to accept there is a bit of give and take...

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Good counsellors walk with you—they don’t carry you!

I often get asked about the difference between counsellors, psychotherapists, and psychologists. At the risk of raising the ire of each group, I would suggest that when each is highly qualified, grounded in research, and experienced, the answer is...

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Counselling: Challenging unfairness

There is something central about counselling that is often missed. For many people, counselling has become a place to go to complain about the unfairness of life. I agree life is unfair. The socio-political structures that surround us are...

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Slow Counselling meets Solution-Focused Counselling

The grounded counselling approach, although blending solution-focused counselling and coaching, is part of a wider slow counselling drive. Rather than using the now 'accepted' approach of forcing data, usually through surveys or questionnaires -- most of which information leads...

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