One of the hallmarks of being human is our ability to adapt to different environments and situations. We in the UK have rarely faced core survival issues, but in our fast-paced society, we still need to adapt very quickly...

One of the issues I often encounter in the counselling room is the distinction between us and them. The creation of what is, inherently, a false distinction between other people and me, or the group I am in and...

Knots are on my mind this week—particularly knots of fear. For so many of us, and yes, I do include myself, that feeling in our stomach, generated by the knot of fear, can hold us back from enjoying life...

Mindful, not mindfulness!  Over the last couple of years, I have delivered a series of workshops for a large company on the topic of mindfulness at work. In the workshops, I explored how people can use mindfulness techniques to live...

The photo above is of our puppy, Margot, who is a small Border Terrier who has exploded with the force of a whirlwind into our lives recently; living proof that small things matter! I was walking Margot back from town...

In recent weeks, it has been interesting to see how much of a jealous lover anxiety can be. Let me explain. In the early days of any relationship, we tend to accept there is a bit of give and take...

There is something central about counselling that is often missed. For many people, counselling has become a place to go to complain about the unfairness of life. I agree life is unfair. The socio-political structures that surround us are...

Why is the rule of law needed to promote human flourishing? Before I go any further, this post is not political; it is philosophical, ethical and fundamental to my counselling practice. I do not care if you vote Tory, Labour,...

In this post, I will introduce an argument that fun is a wicked problem. For much of the discussion on fun in the posts so far, I have written about fun as an object to be desired, manufactured or weaponised....

With so many counsellors sitting in the room straight-laced and distant, it might sound like heresy to suggest counselling should be fun, but in this post, that is precisely what I will argue. Although ‘counselling’ and ‘fun’ may not be...