pre-marriage counselling

deepening relationships

Pre-marriage counselling

Pre-marital counselling is about heading-off those issues that get you into trouble in the first place. Whether you are straight or gay, learning “relationship skills” and “communication skills” at the beginning of the journey can save pain, upset and distress as you journey together..

While many religious faiths require people embarking on married life to have pre-marriage counselling, it is quite rare for people to embark on their most important journey with another person, which will have many emotional peaks and troughs, by developing those skills that will help them grow together.

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Reasons to have pre-marriage counselling

While many religious faiths require people embarking on married life to have pre-marriage counselling, it is quite rare for people to embark on their most important journey with another person, which will have many emotional peaks and troughs, by developing those skills that will help them grow together.

Let’s be honest all relationships have their problems. Sometimes we just want to run away, or push the other person away when things get difficult; but there are areas where relationship coaching can develop the skills and awareness that reduce those bad times and improve the good. For relationship counselling to work – both people need to accept that they are contributing to the problem and want to work together to solve it.

Learn new skills

It seems strange to think that, in all my experience of relation counselling and coaching, communication between two people who love each other is often quite poor as the relationship progresses. We chat away in the early years, letting the other person into our thoughts, feelings, hopes and fears. And yet, as time goes by we either expect them to notice or we feel we can’t talk, and communication becomes little more than a transfer of information.

Learn to talk to each other!

Learn how to keep that openness that we have in the early days into the future not just by talking but by actively listening to each other.

Explore those issues that are likely to cause concern later on:

  • Finances (individual/joint)
  • Approaches to communication
  • How you handle conflict
  • Roles (and expectations of roles) in the marriage/civil partnership
  • Decision making 
  • Approaches and expectations of parenthood …