Relationship Counselling – Marriage Counselling
Counselling is an effective way of helping to prepare for marriage or to prevent, manage and resolve difficulties that arise in relationships
Relationship Counselling or coaching can be an effective way to help couples recognise and acknowledge problems, and to come up with ways to effectively manage and resolve them.
There are a number of reasons why a couple may seek out marriage counselling. These include, but are not limited to, trust issues, communication, working through different family dynamics, sexual difficulties, setting boundaries, affair recovery, intimacy issues, parenting issues, money issues, anger issues, and domestic violence.
I aim to create a safe environment for couples, to work through their various concerns.
I have addressed the issue of when couples should engage in counselling on a separate page
Building a healthy relationship takes time and effort.
Let’s face it, in most relationships things go wrong. When they do, we draw on our past experiences to help resolve the problem; we try to fix them. Occasionally, we hit some problems that we cannot fix on our own; we need some help. And let’s be honest, we can all do with some help in bettering our relationships, we are all capable of improving how we resolve problems and relate to each other.
Whether you are in the middle of a crisis, starting out on your journey together, or just want to improve your relationships, relationship coaching can help.
Relationship coaching can help you resolve issues of trust, confidence, jealousy, sexual issues, and poor communication. Whether carried out as couple, or with one partner, the coaching can help improve the relationship at all stages of the cycle: including premarital and marital counselling, co-parenting counselling, and even separation counselling.
When to look for marriage /relationship counselling or coaching?
Making the diction to see a counsellor for marriage or relationship counselling can be a difficult step to take. Encouraging your partner that your relationship is in trouble or simply needs enhancing can be fraught with difficult conversations. Some signs that are suggest a relationship is in difficulty can be: a lack of communication between you both, when one party has locked the other person out of what is happening in their life, the nature of your communication is dominated by negativity, or you do not feel you can share your feelings with your partner.
* When working with couples, I offer a mix of relationship counselling and coaching to help you make the most of your relationships.
First things first – congratulations on getting engaged!
I guess you are thinking about how blissful and perfect your marriage will be – not how your relationship can benefit from pre-marital counselling and coaching.
Relationship coaching is not just for those who are having difficulties. Pre-marital counselling is about heading-off those issues that get you into trouble in the first place. Pre-marital counselling helps you develop those skills and understanding of each other that mean that when those difficult times do arise (and they will), you both remain connected.
We explore those areas that often cause difficulties in a relationship:
• Finances (individual/joint)
• Approaches to communication
• How you handle conflict
• Decision making
• Roles (and expectations of roles) in the marriage
• Approaches and expectations of parenthood …
Let’s be honest all relationships have their problems. Sometimes we just want to run away, or push the other person away when things get difficult; but there are areas where relationship coaching can develop the skills and awareness that reduce those bad times and improve the good. For relationship counselling to work – both people need to accept that they are contributing to the problem and want to work together to solve it.
The most common problems couples come to relationship counselling for include:
- Poor communication: I would suggest that by far, the most significant issue facing most couples I have worked with is poor communication. People stop talking or trying to understand what the other person is saying. Communication is not about giving the other person information; it is about trying to find a shared understanding. When we forget about sharing knowledge or listening to the other person, the relationship is in trouble. Re-learning how to listen and understand the other person is a major focus of relationship coaching.
- Destructive arguments
- The ‘Affair’
- Emotional Abuse